I didn't do very well with the phone calls as half the reservation people are clueless as to what's happened in St. Maarten and everyone seems to be working under a different and limited set of rules. They're doing their best but the situation is crazy. At this point I think they should abandon all the existing rules and just give people straight refunds. That's what Jet Blue did when I spoke with them and they're the ones I feared might be more difficult. We did finally reach a suitable arrangement with AA to exchange our March tickets to another destination without any fees or penalties. The email worked very well with regard to the air mile reinstatements without any fees.
I know how frustrating it is. Good luck!