Will,
My experience the last 2 trips this Jan and Jan of 2015 was just the opposite. We tied up to dinghy dock at Caneel and I went to desk and asked if it was ok to meet incoming folks there by cab and they were 100% accommodating and helpful. I did end up having dinner there but that was not a requirement. We also swam to shore several times and walked the beach with no issues. Maybe different managers on duty, I dont know but I had 2 very good experiences with the resort staff.