I would share your concerns and views and can only comment on Tiko Tiko where I would agree with others that it isn't a cruiser thing for a number of reasons. However, they do private charters as well as their standard Tintamare runs. On a charter you can control who you go with and they will be happy to go where you want. Clockwise around the island is great fun. The challenge is to recruit friends or potential friends. We know dozens of friends for our weeks and rarely have a problem. I have seen people post "adds" at the Perch and we have recruited groups on this board.

Best of luck!