I finally got through to them. I said, after living down there from '79 - '86 and visiting 3-4 times a year since, I know what I'm talking about and personally wouldn't plan anything for this year. Between this coronavirus and hurricane season, it is just insane to even try to reschedule until next year. And I told them they need to wait til next Spring...at the earliest. I told them that the Virgin Islands is the last place one would want to risk being sick....or in a hurricane. I really didn't want to interfere but felt I had to as they were trying for August or early September.
Thanks all for your help & info. I copied and pasted several of your replies in my email pleading for them to just settle down and be smart. Apparently it worked. Everyone is relieved....except the bride & groom.
FYI... the groom is my stepson. My husband has heard enough about all of it...lol