rita_irvine said:
My brother and his wife have joined us on 5-6 BVI charters. I love them both dearly and my SIL and I travel together without much fuss. She and my hubby start to grate on each other after about a week of a ten day charter.
Whenever we have had people with us Tim has felt like he was in charge and everyone else was on vacation. Even though people want to help if you are not a sailor it is not an instinctive thing. Like tying up the dingy. Tim would always check the knot after someone else ties it up.. Drove my SIL crazy, she had learned how to tie knots and was mildly insulted that he did not trust her ability. He told her after you have tied it correctly 20 times I might skip a time or 2 checking, but my name is on the contract and I am responsible for making sure it is right.
We find it more relaxing just the two of us. We have been married 35 years and pretty much know what the other is thinking..
As my wife has gained experience I find it harder to check her work. Sometimes I wait till after dark to fix something.
We too find it's best with just the two of us. Once in Francis Bay I watched an old couple come in on their own small boat just as the sun was setting. Neither spoke a word they had the routine down. Once the boat was taken care of each came out of the cabin with a cushion and a book and read till dark. Then the cabin lights were on just long enough to make and eat a meal and then lights out. Next morning they were gone. It was a surreal experience for me.
