I'm at about the same experience level as you are. I've been at the helm quite a bit, but with other extremely qualified captains onboard. Without knowing the ages and abilities of your crew its hard to assess their ability to help. There are times on a sail boats where things happen and you need some brawn to help deal with the situation, you are probably well aware of that having been crew. If you are the brawn, that means you need someone who is a competent skipper to take the helm while you resolve the issue. I agree with Teammac on getting a smaller boat for you and your wife to handle before getting others involved. We've been out with larger groups, while extremely fun as a group, the skipper needs skill and confidence. My 2 cents is spend the money on a captain and enjoy your vacation!!! <img src="http://www.traveltalkonline.com/forums/images/graemlins/circle.gif" alt="" />