Maybe it's different depending on where you live (I don't really think so), and I don't want this to become a covid thread either. But if you take the proper precautions to keep yourself safe, then going to the grocery store shouldn't be dangerous. As to the birthday party, it's in our home, in a well-ventilated area, and with close family who we've been in contact with for months. Again, I'm not going to live in fear. We all have to do what works for us.