We have tried several of the options you all suggested to no avail. We noticed when using the dinghy today that the lights would turn off automatically when the dinghy was being raised and lowered (just when button pushed) but would stay on the rest of the time. We finally sent my brother-in-law down in the cockpit lockers to kill the fuse for the night. We are wondering (since it is a brand new boat) if it is wired wrong in the remote and is supposed to be automatic. So problem not solved, but fixed for us on this journey!

Thank you all for your input!