I've written a series of articles about BVI Bareboating - Sailing With Kids and though't I'd share them here.
These are based on my expereince of three separate trips with 10 year-old grandchildren since 2005.  I'd appreciate your comments and questions - and suggestions for follow up articles as well. 
Age & Maturity  Swimming/Snorkeling & Sun Exposure  Schoolwork & Education By The Captain  Navigating, Sailing, Dinghy Handling  Squared Away/Ship Shape & Part Of The Crew On the first three, there are videos which will delay loading the page a bit.  Once they start, you can scroll down and pause them while you read.
While some of this might be helpful for anyone sailing with kids, I think it is particularly suitable for those of us who "borrow" young crewmembers from their parents.
Murph'