Gross. That's just mean. It's not the cook's job to impose his preferences on the diners... Would it make you feel justified if your guests just didn't eat your tenderloin at all because it was cooked to your preference instead of theirs? If so, that's pretty selfish.

When I cook for people I do it because I want to treat them to something they'll love, not educate them on how they "should" be eating or what they "should" like. Most people will try a sample of something different from what they're used to & maybe they'll like it better! But to say you won't make it a certain way? I hope the smilie at the end of your,post indicates that you're just being facetious & if so I sincerely apologize for coming down so hard.

All you have to do is ask people what they like. I'd be very hurt if someone invited me to a meal & then told me they didn't care what I liked or disliked. It's not as though you're having to make a separate meal in this case. Have a little empathy, man! <img src="http://www.traveltalkonline.com/forums/images/graemlins/Wink.gif" alt="" />