Steve,
If you like:
-fun family activities
-snorkeling
-partying
-peaceful time

I recommend visiting the BVIs..

LOL
I guess what I am trying to say is regardless of what you do you will complete your list above.

I guess if you spent more than a minute on this site you have learned the following and since writing about it never gets old... I'll rehash some highlights: party for a family like yours would either be Friday night at Leverick Bay, a full moon at Trellis, most days at White Bay JVD. Also, CGB... and if your girls need braids in their hair (<img src="http://www.traveltalkonline.com/forums/images/graemlins/Doh.gif" alt="" />) Marsha is there and my girls love her so we go... the dolphins led us into the anchorage last year.

For peace... it is in random spots peppered throughout the BVIs... but a sure thing is Cow Wreck for sun down. So rent a jeep/sidekick on Anegada so you can venture there...