I've found putting in a couple of layers of paper towels, then laying on the briquettes, soaking everything with lighter fluid and lighting the edge of the paper towels worked for us. As suggested above a headlamp is great for the entire process because that gives you 2 hands to handle not just the lighting chores but also the cooking.

The one item I wish we had but couldn't find in the store is a fireplace lighter. Lighting matches is the hardest part of the above process.