Yep... all this does and will happen again. "spouse over boards, lost boat hooks, rope burns and embarrassed crew and marital strife". The most important family item here. A very clear standing order to all men, women, and children if there is ever any load pulling on a mooring or docking line in your hand you always let that go and step away. Step away to the mast if you do not know where to go. No one ever should be reaching for any mooring of dock lines from a multi ton moving boat. Yes, you will see individuals doing it all the time with the appearance of success. It is always dangerous. Just as stepping in front of a car in the garage thinking the driver will surely stop is reckless. The prudent mariner, husband, and father will bring the boat to the mooring or dock. Stop the boat within reach of the line(s) to be retrieved and placed securely. Only with the boat stopped and under control should the skipper give the order to reach for the line. There is never any harm in the helmsman observing the conditions and taking the boat back around to make a more controlled approach. If the crew notices the helmsman has his head down into the instruments. I suggest sitting down in the cockpit until the driver gets his end of the boat under control. If a mooring pendant ever pulls on you. Let it go! The boat weighs tons, the engine has the power of 10's of horses, the mooring is screwed to the bottom. A gorilla could not win that battle. When the dock or mooring line pulls the helmsman has created all the error never the crew. Release the line and give the helm the chance to correct the error on the next controlled approach. Step back and away to it is clear to the helm you are clear and the line released. This also gives the helm the visibility back to exit and make another approach.

The rigging of any bridle and pendent is different for each boat and mooring. No one can type that here. If you do not understand how you will attach the the line you retrieve do not go forward. Do you best to never be a part of group effort on the bow. The retrieving of a mooring line is a one person job. Maybe two if the person using the hook would like and specifically asks someone to take the boat hook from them.

Here is a simple picture of one man safely holding a dock line. The line is outside of everything, clear, all in one hand. At the first sign of any load that line can be released on let go with no risk of any injury to the person. The single person or the bow should keep themselves free and clear of any line they many need to release.